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Break a Trauma Bond
How to break a trauma bond...
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How to Break a Trauma Bond
What Is a Trauma Bond?
A trauma bond is an emotional connection that arises between persons in an abusive or highly dysfunctional relationship. Often, these bonds occur from an abused person to their abuser. Trauma ties are generally defined by the 7 phases of trauma bonding which becomes a cycle of abuse followed by guilt, kindness, or affection from the abuser. The abuser may isolate the victim from friends and family, leaving them feeling more stuck in the relationship.
In a trauma bond relationship, the abused person often becomes dependent on the abuser for emotional support and other needs. They may minimize the abuse, hide the abuse from others, or excuse the abuser’s behavior. The tight emotional bond and vicious cycle of affection, kindness, and abuse make it exceedingly difficult for the abused individual to exit the relationship.
1. Find Resources Around You
Support is vital when breaking a trauma attachment. Many resources are available to help you heal from trauma and move ahead, such as domestic violence shelters. Other local groups give victims access to legal support, therapy, childcare, healthcare, employment support, educational resources, and financial assistance. Your information is private and protected, as shelters understand that abusers often search for their escaped victims.
2. Communicate Your Needs Clearly & Assertively
Learning to set relationship boundaries allows you to communicate your requirements clearly and assertively. Boundaries might seem different for everyone and can include nearly anything. However, people may push back and test these limits, especially in trauma-bond relationships.
Remember, someone acting angry or aggressive when you set limits can suggest a deeper issue. What starts as a conversation where you explain your desires might become dangerous if your spouse becomes violent. In these instances, build a safety plan to feel secure and prepared for worst-case events.
3. Disengage & Retract From the Situation
While doing so may seem paradoxical, disengaging and distancing oneself from the situation can be important, especially if the individual is threatening. Retracting can help mitigate the heightened emotions associated with a trauma bond.
4. Face Your Feelings
In dependent or trauma-bonded relationships, pushing your negative feelings aside to resolve conflicts and appease your partner can become normal. However, don’t try to flee or avoid your sentiments. Instead, focus on identifying them and taking steps to address them. Acknowledging your feelings shows you notice and care about how the dynamics in your trauma bond effect your emotions and mood. Then, you can begin to move forward.
5. Validate Yourself
Validating oneself is a vital step to increasing your self-confidence and resilience. For example, establish good self-talk by speaking to yourself with love and encouragement. This approach can function in the moment and as a long-term coping method. You can also adopt alternative strategies to legitimize your emotions, such as a creative outlet or a social support system.
6. Talk to a Professional
Having a safe environment to discuss and understand the deeper meaning behind interpersonal disputes might be the first step toward recovery from a trauma connection. One option to discover a therapist specialized in trauma ties is by checking an internet therapist directory. Reading reviews and looking at clinician bios to understand their scope of practice might give you an idea of if their experience suits your scenario. Many therapists offer a free phone consultation and virtual/teletherapy consultations, both of which allow people an opportunity to obtain care during the pandemic.
7. Keep a Journal
Journaling allows you to identify, express, and process your feelings without judgment. You can pour your feelings onto a blank paper and discharge your dread, anxiety, or depression from your head and heart. Journaling about trauma allows you to preserve a record of your reactions and healing process, reflect on the stages of trauma bonding, and uncover chances for emotional growth throughout time.
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Ragdoll Pose (Uttanasana)
What is Ragdoll Pose?
Ragdoll pose is a variation of uttanasana, or standing forward bend. Here, the yogi clasps opposite elbows, bends the knees and allows the head to hang. The pose releases the low back and revitalizes the mind.
Instructions
Begin standing with the feet hip distance wide.
Bend the knees slightly, exhale and bend at the hips.
Clasp opposite elbows and allow the head to hang. Shift the bodyweight forward.
Hold here or slowly sway side to side.
Breathe while holding the pose.
Inhale and return to standing.
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