The Stress of Perfectionism

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The Stress Of Perfectionism

The moment of truth. How do you know you’re a perfectionist?

• You often feel weighed down by fear of your goals not succeeding

• You’re constantly looking for the ‘right’ moment to do something

• You have a persistent sense of dissatisfaction with what you’ve achieved

• You obsess over small mistakes that have little impact on the big picture

• You neglect self-care in favor of achievements

Here are three psychological strategies to overcome perfectionism. This will allow you to take steps toward accepting the average parts of yourself, and it will help you let go of a shocking amount of hidden stress.

1.Rethink what it means to be average.

In our culture, failure is frequently defined as anything that falls short of brilliance. That’s not an exaggeration; it’s just the reality of our skewed notions of achievement that have failed to account for larger and more interconnected societies in which it’s increasingly difficult to stand out.

Despite the fact that the adjectives "average" and "mediocre" are meant to indicate the middle of the pack, we tend to associate them with negativity. Your self-worth shouldn't be correlated in the slightest if you are ordinary at something. For the most of their life, most people are average at most things. Does that mean that most people should feel bad about themselves?

You should still aim for greatness in some aspects of your life even if you accept the aspects of yourself that make you mediocre. All it means is that the desire to excel doesn’t need to be driven by the feeling that you are incomplete. It could be driven by the desire to better the community, the passion of competing with your former self, or even just the task itself in the here and now.

2. Challenge the all-or-nothing fallacy.

The black-and-white mentality, or the all-or-nothing fallacy, is directly responsible for perfectionism. For instance, when we feel that our entire worth is dependent on our accomplishments, we are compelled to make every effort to do things perfectly since any error would compromise our sense of self-worth.

We can also see this when we look for the one perfect moment to get started on something, when we put all our efforts into one project and neglect our health, and most toxically, when we try to evaluate our life against the over-generalized boxes of success or failure.

When you see this type of thinking emerge in your psyche, challenge it, and replace it with more nuanced explanations.

3.Become friends with what you don’t know.

A strong drive to control results is another essential component of perfectionism that I observed. We tend to do this in part because we are more afraid of things not turning out the way we want or expect.

In part, this is because perfectionism creates stress, and when we are stressed we start to become more susceptible to cognitive biases. For example, we may believe that if things don’t go the way we anticipate, everything will fall apart, we will lose out on opportunities, or we will be criticized by others.

Enhancing our comfort level in unfamiliar situations is one way we can combat this mindset. As with many aspects of life, there is only so much you can control—whether it's your career, finances, or relationships.

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